Two Ways to Teach Your Dog to Greet Guests Politely And One Mistake to Avoid

 

Recently, I wrote an article titled “The #1 Secret to Getting Your Dog to Leave Your Guests Alone”. This is a very important article.

There are some dogs out there that should NEVER interact or greet your guests.

Dogs with aggression issues, for instance, should not be allowed to “greet” your guests physically. Forcing them, or encouraging them to do so can result in bites and aggression issues worsening.

However, for some dogs, simply sitting at your feet (on leash) when guests are over is safe and acceptable behavior.

Yes, some dogs are so aggressive, and so unpredictable, that allowing them close to your guests can spell trouble. It may also threaten the life of your dog, as they can be deemed “dangerous” and euthanized should a bite occur.

Err on the side of caution if you have a dog like this.

It is not about “saving face” around people, or letting them judge you and your dog.

It is about saving the life or your dog!

I had a dog like this, and he spent his life being leashed and knowing that taking his spot at my feet without showing any signs of aggression was highly desirable behavior. It was also my job to build his trust and to never allow people close enough to cause him fear. This also kept him from ever being close enough to bite. He died of cancer at the ripe old age of 11, having never bitten a soul (despite being a very fear aggressive puppy).

Although in my old age, I prefer a much more controlled and aloof dog, I understand that some of you want a dog that will simply greet guests politely.

Certainly, this is a highly desirable trait in a dog.

But it is something that needs to be taught!

Just like any other behavior, your dog does not spring from the womb knowing how to greet your guests politely.

Let’s face it, your dog does not know the meaning of polite!

Teaching Your Dog to Politely Greet Guests

There are two main ways to teach your dog to stop jumping up and politely greet guests. And, for it to work best, it should be a combination of the two!!!

1. On Leash

We have discussed this at length before; the only way to truly have control over your dog is to have him on a leash.

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Sure, there are trainers out there who will strap a shock collar to your dog and zap him when he goes to jump on a guest.

I, however, don’t want my dog to associate guests with pain; nor do I think this kind of training is productive; nor does it help them with true learning and understanding.

The best way is to put your dog on a leash, control him, and keep him from jumping on guests.

If your dog is never allowed to jump on your guests, he will begin to stop even trying.

Let’s say I promise to pay you $10,000 if you never, ever allow your dog to jump on someone. Would it be worth it to you? Read this https://thedogtrainingsecret.com/blog/dog-jumping-people/   Could you do it with that kind of payout offered? How about $100,000, or a million?

I’ll bet if there were a million dollars on the line, for such an easy behavior, you would suddenly be motivated to teach your dog to NEVER jump on your guests.

I’ll also bet that you would use a leash, at least in the beginning, while you are teaching and conditioning behavior.

2. Incompatible Behaviors

In my last article, I talked about how my dogs can’t lie at my feet and jump on my guests.

It is simply not possible.

If my dog is lying down at my feet, he cannot be jumping on my guests!

If my dog is lying down, he can’t jump at all.

If my dog is successfully sitting and remains seated, he can also not be jumping on my guests. I say “successfully” and “remains seated” because it is so easy for a dog to go from sitting to jumping or standing.

If one million dollars was riding on your decision to keep your dog from jumping, I’ll bet you would almost never ask for him to sit.

Choosing the correct incompatible behavior helps to condition your dog how to react to guests.

Allowing your dog to make mistakes actually conditions jumping and other excitable behaviors.

The #1 Mistake to Avoid

And, again, I will reiterate from the last article.

DO NOT GIVE YOUR GUESTS POWER OVER YOU

Do not allow your guests to give your dog the best treats.

Do not allow your guests to encourage your dog to jump and be rewarded for doing so.

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Do not allow your dog to think that someone who visits is better than you!

When I teach puppy training classes, I bring the best rewards. I use string cheese, chicken breast, steak, and roast.

When I am around, my puppy parents have no control over their puppies!

I can take 98% of those puppies from their owners and 98% beg to leave with me each week.

On the third week, I point out how frustrating this behavior is for the owner.

They will command their puppy. I will walk by, and the puppy totally stops doing whatever it is doing and runs to my feet.

Now, as a dog trainer, it is my job to take puppies and teach behaviors.

I would be a bad trainer if I never demo’d with the puppies in my classes.

However, the repercussion is infuriating to the owners.

On week three, I point this out and tell them why; “I’VE CONSISTENTLY HAD THE BEST REWARDS AND REWARDED CONSISTENT BEHAVIORS.” I am also new and exciting and have never corrected their puppies. Their puppies have never incurred my wrath or know anything except how perfect I am.

By allowing a dog to see this perfection in another person or other people, you are losing the battle, if not the war.

I want my puppies to think I “hung the moon.”

I want my puppy and my dogs to pay the ultimate attention to me.

Sure, a stranger or a friend can give my dog a biscuit; but I don’t want him or her to give something of high-value.

High-value rewards and high-value games come from me!

No exceptions.

By teaching my dogs this simple trick, and consistently rewarding good behavior, I keep them paying attention to me!

They might visit my guest for a short “hello,” but they always have me in their line of sight and are ready at a moment’s notice if I give them the opportunity for a treat and a jackpot through an obedience command!

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Comments

  1. Minette says:

    Find a boarded veterinary behaviorist

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  2. My English bulldog isn’t aggressive when guests arrive but he does get very hyper and tends to jump up on guest’s legs. He is five years old and has always had this habit because a I did not know how to properly change it with him being my first dog. I will give the leash approach a try. Will him being an older dog effect him taking on this behavior? Thanks for the post!

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    Minette Reply:

    Put him on a leash and don’t allow it!!!! Give him something else to do.

    I bet if I offered you 200,000 dollars to never allow him to jump on someone again for the rest of his life… you would find a way to make that happen.

    Find a way to make it happen for the comfort of your guests and the need of your dog to control himself!

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  3. Ashley says:

    My dog is a 100lbs lab who gets extremely excited when the doorbell rings. He books it down the stairs to my front door, and jumps and barks at the door. When the door is opened he shoves our and bombards my guests. Unfortunately we did not correct this behaviour as a puppy and now it happens every time we have a guest over. He will NOT listen no matter what when he is greeting guests. He is 100lbs and very, very strong, and I find that putting him on a leash has just made things worse as he pulls so hard to try to get at our guests. I’m just at my wits end and I don’t even know where to start with correcting this behaviour

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    Minette Reply:

    Put him on a leash and teach him what your expecations are… how else would he know

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  4. Randy Bramsen says:

    Hello,
    I have a 2 year old Doberman male Helios that while growing up with my neighbors older male German Shepard has recently got into a fight with each other. I believe it is who is showing dominance of each other, well I had to rush my dog to the vet to get staples in his wounds.
    Then about 3 weeks after the Shepard came back over to fight with him again and I got them apart with me suffering a cut on my hand.

    Since all this happened Helios has shown aggressiveness to my older male Beagle and I have gotten worried about this. Also one day recently trimming Helios toenails he got mad and bit me in the face.

    I am not sure what to do at this point and I would like to keep Helios, do you have any suggestions?

    Thank you

    Randy Bramsen

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    Minette Reply:

    At this point with this aggression I recommend a boarded veterinary behaviorist. I cannot see the aggression of which you speak so it is unethical for me to offer specific advice.

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