Mind Your Manners
Me and My Fury Doing Attention Heel
It has come to my attention that maybe not everyone has the doggy background that I do when it comes to training and behavior. Be sure to click on all the many links in this article for help with the many things mentioned!
I do my best to write articles for the “masses”; you have to understand everyone from other professional trainers, people aspiring to train, to vets, to veterinary behaviorists read and share my articles.
I also have people who have NEVER owned a dog EVER to those who have had hundreds of dogs in their lives.
I try to work on all kinds of levels so that people at all phases can learn or share something, that way it is not always “basics” but it doesn’t always require advanced training either. .
I’ve written articles on everything from aggression to how to make a nearly indestructible dog bed to everything in between (and sometimes many times over). Be sure to like us on Facebook at thedogtrainingsecret.com to keep up with my bi-weekly writings.
I recently got “schooled” a little in our comments section because sometimes my responses are short and may rely on the person having more knowledge than they do.
Personally it is hard for me to tell, when I am asked a question, exactly how much experience the person has with dog training unless I am told.
And, if you are looking for help there is a search bar about a ¼ of the page down to the right, you can search for whatever subject you are seeking help with!
There are also grouped topics like barking, chewing, and potty training that will bring up lots of free articles.
And, I moderate sometimes hundreds of comments and questions a day. Sometimes I just stick to simple, quick answers. And, sometimes I have answered the same question numerous times in the same place, so I rely on people reading through previously asked questions in the same place.
Anyone who knows me or has taken one of our courses knows I am a kind and genuine person, but it is difficult to read tone or know much about a person from a quick response.
And, I will admit sometimes I probably do give people credit for knowing more than they know. It is hard to do something for over 20 years and remember what it was like back in the day when I didn’t read dog behavior so quickly.
When you do something day in and day out it becomes second nature and like anyone else I suppose I take that for granted. And I appreciate getting called out on occasion 😉
So Let’s Go Back to the Original Question
My comment was “Put the dog on a leash and teach him manners”, I believe he was jumping for more on specific help with jumping click here.
What do I mean by manners?
A dog with manners is a dog that listens to your commands on the first command.
This usually requires basic obedience but doesn’t always!
I have seen dogs that can compete to a high level in obedience trials, or agility competitions, that still have no “manners” at home. They jump on people, run through the house or jump on counters. Although usually this is rare and mostly seen in dogs that live outside.
Think of it in Terms of Kids.
Kids with manners are quiet, soft spoken, and respectful of other children and adults.
Kids without manners are like tornadoes not listening to anyone or anything. Recently while staying with friends and their kids with all 3 of my dogs (we were competing in dock diving). The resident children were dropped off by a sports “mom” and three other tornadoes ran into the house.
2 of my dogs were crated; one in what looks like a wild animal crate (because he is a crate chewer) and the kids ran over and were getting ready and probably did to stick hands into crates. It is hard to keep an eye on 3 dogs and 5 kids.
My dogs aren’t kid eaters but I don’t want them to feel overwhelmed by kids when they are in their crates; and I don’t have kids at home.
One of them is very territorial with other dogs in his crate making loud growling and barking if a dog gets too close. I didn’t want him to have the same reaction with children (thank goodness he diden’t).
But the kids didn’t even listen to me; it was like I didn’t exist until I went over and got in their faces. This was not good manners! And, they had no respect for their mother either.
I suspect they don’t get a lot of regular training; just like naughty dogs don’t get a lot of training or the interaction they need!
Manners Come With Basic Training and Teaching
Manners come with interaction and basic teaching and training.
So I make my dogs sit before they get fed. They don’t get to act like imbecilic (flying around jumping, nipping) and then be rewarded by getting their meals. For more on getting your dog to work for his food and why, click here.
I also make my dogs earn their privileges, and being free and off leash in my house is a privilege for more on that click here
So my dogs are never allowed to jump on people, or steal underwear or jump on counters. They grow up being on leash and being taught what my expectations are, and they are rewarded for good behavior like laying down, sitting, giving me focus.
They have “manners” and when we visit other people’s homes they are crated or on leash to ensure that they have “manners” and so we can be invited back. They don’t come off leash until I know for sure they will listen no matter what.
I never want to visit someone or have someone visit me and leave the visit thinking; “I never want to spend time with her again, her dogs are so ill behaved”.
I want them to think, “Wow, she has great dogs”.
I think exercise plays a HUGE role in manners. This is what I mean by exercise.
A tired dog is too tired to jump on people and he is getting what he needs physically. Put your exercise and your training together and you’ll have the perfect dog! Read this for more on building excitement into your training program.
Manners Can Be Whatever You Want
Manners can be whatever you want it to be, it is your house and your dog, if you don’t like it train to change it!
You can train your dog as far as you want and achieve whatever goals you want.
The important key is that you work on the basics of what you desire in that environment regularly.
Dogs can’t learn well when they are distracted or when other people come over, train with them one on one BEFORE you insert other people as distractions and do it on a regular basis… at least daily for best results! Click here for why expecting too much without the foundation is ruining your dog training.
Get out there and get training and exercising and you’ll see results with all the problems you are having!
I have been a professional dog trainer and pet sitter for over 20 years. I am a Certified Professional Dog Trainer, through the international Certification Counsel of Professional Dog Trainers. I have trained and worked with police, Schutzhund and personal protection dogs. I trained Assistance Dogs in a men’s prison and ran my own nonprofit organization to take adult dogs from shelters and to train them to assist children and adults with disabilities, at no charge to my clients. My nonprofit organization and I were nominated for several awards of merit and even made the front page of the Denver Post. I was a veterinary technician for many years, where I learned about all aspects of health and preventative medicine. I have trained and worked with exotic animals and cheetahs. I introduced a temperament testing program in my local shelter and sat on the board of directors. I volunteered with my dog “Mr. Snitch” and helped local children learn to read. I have attained obedience titles and several blue ribbons. I am constantly in search of ways to continue my education and excellence when it comes to animals, their behavior and their health.